Longing To Be With Another Woman
Written by Ginger
Where to begin......I've been with my incredibly hot husband for almost 5 years, we've been married for one of those years. We each have a child from a previous marriage. We recently bought a brand new home. Both have great jobs. Basically have an amazing life together. Our relationship with each other is absolutely wonderful too. He is supportive, gorgeous, caring, unbelievably sweet, attentive to my wants and needs. He's absolutely awesome. Our intimate relationship with each other is even incredible. I've never experienced such intense and passionate sex with anyone before. He knows my moods without me having to say anything. He can sense when I need the sweet, passionate, love-making; or when I just want hot, intense, rough sex. I can't get enough of him...
But there's one thing that just constantly lingers in the back of my mind. Something that constantly bears down on me, leaving me feeling as if something is missing, not to mention incredibly guilty.
No matter how attracted I am to my husband...no matter how much he satisfies me in (most) EVERY way, I am always longing to be with another woman?? I've never been with one. Never kissed one. Never even come close to it! But, I've never wanted something so much in my life! When I am pleasuring myself, all I can fantasize about is being with another female. When I have hot dreams at night, it's always another female. I would never, ever cheat on my husband, and a crazy part of myself is rationalizing the situation by saying, "well if it's not a man, then it isn't cheating." And that is absurd to think that!
My longing for this experience became so overwhelming, that I even went to my husband and told him that I wanted to have a three-some with him and another female. He was absolutely stunned and firmly objected. Of course, like most all men, after I talked with him about it and assured him that it wasn't a trick (haha), he agreed and said if I found someone, then we would see where it went from there. After really thinking about it for a couple of weeks, I realized that a 3 way wasn't what I was looking for, and doing that would only hurt my marriage. I don't feel like there is anything lacking with him. And the thought of another woman being with him just drives me crazy. I want to experience a female alone. How hypocritical is that?! What is wrong with me? How can I love this man so much, yet long for something else too? I am totally lost and confused about this!
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Back in the early 80's life was like a sexual free-for all. We happened to have a few friends that we regularly had sex with and so the girls pairing up together didn't seem unusual. The first time I ate another woman's
BAD WORDwas cool, but later on when I was with a girl I really like and cared about, it was magical. I WAS HOOKED!!! I LOVE sex with women! I actually prefer it, but only with a woman I love and have an ongoing relationship with.I encourage you to try this and explore your feelings. I would much rather die regretting a few things I did than regretting all the things I never tried. It doesn't have to destroy your marriage. It all depends on how you treat your husband and if you always make him feel like the most special person in your world.
I have been married 41 years. I have great children, a loving husband and a girlfriend that i have sweet, passionate sex with on a weekly basis. You can have it all if you just do it right. Be smart, be savvy, be loving.
2) SOMETHING WICKED YOU ARE NORMAL!! I didn't mean to yell but honey, if anyone says they have never thought of this then they are lying or a big major prude. I too have had fantasies about being with another woman, still haven't bit the bullet though. The difference, my BF wants to video tape it. I don't think I would want him to join in, like you that just freaks me out but me, it's a female, I like his "uummmm" so it's not something that will threaten the relationship. Talk more to your husband, most men do have some kind of fantasy about it. He doesn't have to participate just watch, have limitations, have a word that if he is uncomfortable once things get moving, he can say it and you will stop. I have plenty of tips from experience. If you want to talk, look me up. Good luck!
And for "booger"- you know, I have always thought that he wouldn't ever really care about me being with another woman, and might even be excited. I mean, I'm no playboy model at all, but I am in good shape, slender, and a redhead, so I just figured he'd want to watch me with another hot female. TOTALLY wrong. He wants no part of it. I guess I should be flattered that he thinks so much of our marriage to not want to bring anything taboo into it. But, a part of me is frustrated as hell that he does care so much! Ok, sorry about the rant. I really only meant to say thank you, lol :)
Second: Talk to you husband some more. If my wife wanted to be with another woman, I don't think I'd have a problem with it - especially if she let me film it.
I don't think it's unusual that you have this desire - and if you husband knows about it and agrees to it, then it's not cheating. Talk to you husband and see where his limits are. Who knows, maybe he'll let you get freaky in the bedroom with another woman while he watches football on TV!
Good luck!
Guess it depends what your priorities are.. living out one fantasy for the other...
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