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What Do I Do?

Member: StressedHubby

As our lives together began we had an alright yet very turbulent relationship. I was still married to a woman that had moved away a few months earlier and she was still married to a man that was always mean to her. Naturally we had many arguments, some that ended up in a lot of pushing and shoving.

I had my own little tryst with a woman that I was working with at the time and my wife and I did our little fighting until we made up and she had her little revenge affair. Unfortunately it didn't stop there for her.

We had moved to a little town a few miles north of where we had started our lives together but at the time I was immobile, I lost my license do to nonpayment of traffic tickets. She was working and started seeing another guy. The guy happened to be a few years younger than she was and I had my suspicions but was never really sure. I found out a few years later that she was sleeping with him while I was at home with the kids alone. Although she said she only did it a couple times I was still pissed.

Just a short while after this started she had come home one night, one of the couple nights a week that she would return home, and she had a kid in tow. Now I don't mean a young kid, but a kid that was barely 19 at the time. I am in my mid 30's now so I call him a kid.

I was pissed about this and I told her that this wasn't happening and she disagreed. She said she would never pick me over her friends. Something inside me snapped, not in a violent way but I haven't been the same since.

This kid moved in shortly after that night. She fell for him in short order and started sleeping with him a couple years later. Again she said that she only did this a couple times, I have my doubts. She had this guy live with us for about 8 years before they finally got into a fight and she told him to move out.

Now I am getting ahead of myself a little bit because about a year ago she met another guy that again is still just a kid, this one is only 18. He was having issue with his mommy so my wife decided that he needed to move in to our house, thus the fight with the other kid that has been living with us. Again she started sleeping with him a few months ago.

Now she is having serious issues with letting the second one go. I think she is still in love with the guy and is having a hard time letting her feelings for him end. She is crying every time she talks to him or his girlfriend. 

I am at a point in my life where I am not sure what I need to be doing and how I should feel, not only with the way she feels about these other guys, but how I actually feel about her anymore. I know that I still love her and we do have 13 years together, which is a long time to throw away.

I need advice.

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0 #3 Can you say NO trust? — ladyinstreets 2010-10-17 14:45

End the relationship. The trust is broken.. It cannot be repaired. Cut your losses like the others said and GET THE heck out while the gettin is good. It hasnt been good for a long time.. so stop bleeding to death put a rag over the wound and move on.

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0 #2 RE: What Do I Do? — kobra000 2010-09-11 01:06

walk away brother,this girl doesn't care about you and i think is being pretty blatant about that,especially with the line that she wont pick you over her friends,13 years is a long time but,you can know a person 80 and they can still become someone you don't know in a single second. i hope you can take the steps to cash out and move on and get some happiness in your life. a chick like that will only end up killing you either mentally,physic ally,or spiritually.

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0 #1 move on brother. — private. 2010-09-11 00:49

from what gather this women doesnt care about you at all,bringing young guys into your home and bonking them? sounds like she has no respect for you or your feelings and may in fact doing all this to be sadistic to you. i know 13 years is along time but you can know a person for 80 and they can still change into someone you dont know at all in a single second.i take it this situation is causing alot of stress so before you end up having something bad happen like a stress induced H.A pack your stuff and take off and cut your losses and go out and find happiness,somet hing tells me your not ever going to find it with her. the "ill never pick you over my friends" line said it all to me. one cant live in that kind hell.i feel for ya man.hope you take the steps into cashing this one out.

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