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Good Girl Gone Bad?

Written by Juanita Matthews

My story starts with my meeting my new ex fiancé. He was awesome. We clicked so well......He had faults, but he let me know, or so I thought what all his faults were. Unlike all the others who had hid behind a mask, until they thought I was attached, then dropped the bomb, only to get dropped....He admitted he was a felon, and was looking for a job, and I saw that he really wanted to better himself. He also admitted he was a recovering alcoholic, 2 years sober.

He soon found a job, but not really what he wanted because he was an electrician, and this was not electrical work, but times were tough, and he really wanted to work. He worked hard and stayed clean, so eventually we moved in together.

THE FIRST DAY he moved in he was off work, and I had to work, and when I came home he was obviously DRUNK. We went thru months of me trying to get him to sober up, finally it happened. He was clean again, taking responsibility, acting like a mature adult, even could be trusted with the debit card.

On Christmas that year we got engaged. I was the happiest woman on the planet...  One day in January, I told him to be careful with spending, because things were a little tight, and next thing you know he fell off the wagon again, and was overspending like crazy. I tried reasoning with him, and begging and pleading with him to snap out of it. Nothing worked. He began telling me that this was the real him, and nothing was going to change.."Love me or leave me" became his favorite quote.

I'm thinking I didn't want to give up on him, or the marriage. He kept calling me his wife, but the more he said that the less I wanted to do it. Just recently, I decided, it's time to start the transition of getting him out, and I started to plan, and letting him know I was done.

Meanwhile, I ran into a guy from my old neighborhood, who I had a big crush on, who I didn't know had a huge crush on me also. I thought I hadn't seen him in years, but I soon found out we went to the same church, and he had known it was me, but he was then married.....but I didn't recognize him. I heard the name a few times, and scanned the room, but nobody I recognized. 

Later I learned that my old neighborhood was having a reunion, which neither one of us attended, but the pictures were posted which got me to looking through everyone’s friends on Facebook. I came across this guys pic and messaged him about the fact that we had gone to the same church, and he admitted he knew and so we began just chatting. We ran into one another about a month after we began chatting. He knows the story about my ex fiancé who was on his way out, but not gone yet, who I was still sleeping beside, but that is it. This new guy and I have really clicked and been spending time together, but no sex is involved yet, although...... It is obvious that it is getting difficult to resist.......

I have been hiding the fact that I have been seeing this new guy from the fiancé to avoid him thinking that the new guy is what came in between us, I mean, give him someone else to blame besides himself.  I feel very stressed out about this situation because I have never ever been a cheater. I always end one before beginning another, but, this kinda just happened.

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0 #2 RE: Good Girl Gone Bad? — Becky Nye 2010-10-25 22:12

Well I don't know if you still need advice or not, but I'm going to tell you what I think. I think you are in a pretty tough situation, but as cheesy as this sounds, you should always follow your heart. You gave your ex-fiance every chance in the world to make it work between you and he didn't come through for you. You come first. Worry about you and your happiness. You have spent enough time trying to make him happy and trying to fix him. You need to focus on yourself. I'm not saying go ahead and cheat, but I don't think you should deny yourself happiness either. If I was in your situation I would get your ex-fiance out of your place asap. I'm sure you'd like to be able to bring your old friend home and not have your ex-fiance there, even if it's no for sex. Hope this helps.

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+1 #1 comment — bob jines 2010-09-03 04:07

wow..... are you BOTH really stupid!!! Then too you could pretty young which would account for the stupidity

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