At A Crossroad

Written by John Smithers

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confused-guyWhile I love my wife and kids, there is alot lacking with her, I feel that she doesn’t pay attention to me and makes me feel like I am just the other parent in this relationship.  I have tried numerous times to talk her about anything but it seems she would rather go on facebook or read a book than talk to me about how my day was. I feel very alone and unwanted but she tells me that it’s just the way I feel, well no kidding, maybe it’s time to unwind with another partner, no not leaving her, just something on the side, no strings attached.  I know it may be wrong but when you have tried way too hard to rekindle the fire that has burned out, you really don’t have another choice, so what should I do, I am always looking to make new friends.


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0 #18 Unwanted by my Wife — Vicci Bailey 2011-07-01 08:52
Hi
I struggle with the same thing. For me, its more not wanting to struggle with “switching gears” from mommy to romance and for how long? The kids will demand my time, so why? (just saying the struggle, not justifying it.
Dates, time away from kids, spending time in the “romance” role without pushing her.. I force myself to make the switch, once there, Im ok. But I HATE switching back and forth. I’m thinking about going to doctor about medicine maybe, I know hormones have a lot to do with it…could make it easier… make any sense?
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0 #17 RE: At A Crossroad — Markdicus 2011-06-27 14:53
Pray
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0 #16 Hi Amanda — Eagr 2011-06-24 22:59
Quoting Amanda Gepner:
Well I am a stripper but I would love to give you some attention. I have cheap rates and a lovely personality. Try it out for your happiness.


Amanda, I'd love to hear from you. If you could drop me a line maybe we could arrange a private show sometime?

Eagr2b. Can be found yahooing
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0 #15 re — ninja 2011-06-18 11:26
i know EXACTLYwat u are going thru, but trust me, cheating won't help. It's justa band-aid on the problem. sure it feels good to have someone on the side to listen to r problems, confide in and occasionally fool around with, but it'll just depress u even more when u have to leave her to go home to the one that doesn,t want u. my advice, just start over, leave her and concentrate on finding what or who u want in life.
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+3 #14 Re: Unwanted by my Wife — Amanda Gepner 2011-06-17 12:41
Well I am a stripper but I would love to give you some attention. I have cheap rates and a lovely personality. Try it out for your happiness.
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+1 #13 future broken marriage? — Elias Amador 2011-06-17 12:40
This earth has plenty of broken marriages, don't let your go the same direction.
I myself went to through one and is no fun at all. Have you picture your kids after you decide to go your way and she decides to go hers? they don't learn by what we tell them, they learn by what they see we do. Come on man; lets be realistic, are you the very same way with her like when you guys first started going out? does your heart still feels the same when you look at her? let's be realistic here bro. We as men love what we see but they go by what they hear, it's both of our natures. You've seen a very big and not so good looking guy with a beautiful girl? it's because he knows how to talk to her. When was the last time you took her out and made her feel special? love's just like a flower you need to water it every single day, otherwise it's going to dry out and it looks like yours is drying get the some water(love,pati ence,care,time) and start working and do what's best for the kids, 10,20 years from now when your kids get older and go through hardtimes but they remember how daddy stood strong, you will be the happiest man and grandpa fo the world. You need to work hard for everything you love and don't give up. Remember that at the end of the tunnel there is a light and that light is Jesus. STRONG CONTINENTS ARE MADE OUT OF STRONG COUNTRIES; STRONG COUNTRIES ARE MADE OUT OF STRONG CITIES; STRONG CITIES ARE MADE OUT STRONG COMMUNITIES; YOU GET WHAT I'M SAYING, RIGHT? STRONG COMMUNITIES ARE MADE OUT OF STRONG FAMILIES...........
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+2 #12 choices — Karl Myers 2011-06-09 11:40
we all have choices to make in life and have to live with the results so if you are at the point where the loosing your wife and home are worth it then go head and cheat and see if that solves the real problem. maybe there are things she wants that you are not doing and is trying to see if pushing you out will wake you up. hope you find what ever it is you think you are missing
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+3 #11 show her you are serious — kasey 2011-06-04 16:09
Have you asked her if she would go into couples counseling with you? It may show you are serious about wanting to communicate these issues and what steps to take next. I have not heard enough of your story to know what the larger issues are behind what is going on. Has she or you had a history of depression? Is she on different medications? Have you asked her if there is something she feels is missing, that you could compromise on? There are so many things to discuss before making assumptions and jumping into new territory.
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-4 #10 I am the Truth — Tawanna Redhead 2011-06-03 09:22
:D Hi, I am gonna be real and blunt. Ur kids are gonna be urs if ur there or not. She cannot take that from u. The kids see that u both r unhappy. That affects them also. I feel it is wrong to stay 2gether 4 kids only. A marriage is you n her, yal took vows. not her you n the kids. When a relationship is over, its over!! Be friends, maybe yal can reconcile or start new later. maybe not, but be cordial for the kids. If u dont get out now, yal will hate each other in the long run.Good men have nothin ass bitches and make it hard for women like me. God bless u!!!
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-9 #9 know ut all — Yogy Bear 2011-06-03 00:16
Quit fighting it bro. Go out and get yourself some stray hay. Have a hell of a time getting those tiny balls off! Good luck explaining this whole scenario to your kids though, when you're seeing them once a week and every other weekend. And just think, she'll get to fire up with some new stud that will probably satisfy her in ways you never took the time to learn. Hell, I might do her! But yeah, I suggest you go get wild. By all means I'm sure you deserve it. Hey! Maybe your kids will be lucky enough to grow up to be just like you. Doesn't that sound fun?

Signed, Arnold Schwarzenegger
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+5 #8 tell your wife duh! — ohla 2011-06-02 07:58
I think that all eelings should be told openly to wife. If you can't tell her how you feel then you do not have a partnership. if she is not interested in sex for some reason you both can work together on a solution. Marriage is more than sex; but without having a partner you can lean on when things are tough (even if its their behavior) then down the road you have nothing. she may give you thumbs up to seek satisfaction elsewhere if the relationship was worth it. Cuz,eventually, every hot sex relationship will fizzle a little.
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+5 #7 RE: At A Crossroad — Wallace 2011-05-28 13:36
Anyone that promotes others cheating on their spouses should analyze their respect for humanity. There is NO excuse for that.

If she doesn't pay attention to you and you feel lonely then sit and talk to her like an adult. If it isn't working out then, that's better for everyone than the scenario of cheating for either party. From personal guilt to the pain that she and your children would have.

Your personal feelings are irrelevant in the face of that kind of disgrace.
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+1 #6 well it is what it is — nikki 2011-05-24 19:44
being cheated on wont help it only brings more pain if she wont show any difference leave for a few days and then if it still don't change then it's time to move on i know it hard i to have been there and as strange as it sounds i once again am facing the same thing all over you need to be happy as well think about that
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+11 #5 Re: Unwanted by my Wife — Tonya R 2011-05-19 15:40
Hello I just read you are thinking of cheating on your wife! I can give you adives to help your marriage. Seeing I am a wife and I went threw a period where I made my husband feel the same way! If you could answer my message so I know you got it I would love to help you!
Thanks:)
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0 #4 opinion — guy 2011-05-18 08:26
oops typo mean want
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+8 #3 opinion — guy 2011-05-18 08:25
This all depends on your belief's - but if your are a christian and won't to live with yourself,, then you need not cheat. You won't get the satifaction you think you will and it will tear you up inside.. right now you have the high ground.. you shouldn't give that up.. How will your kids feel when they find out.. and believe me cheaters always get found out.. my advice, ask for counciling if she refuses, the move out for a week or two.. make it REAL for her. Is she cheating??? don't answer that without really thinking about it.

** Also have you tried to earn it -- little things matter more to women than men. Good luck my friend and god bless
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-10 #2 Look 4 someone — Luisa 2011-02-07 13:43
If she is treating you badly,look for someone on the side if you have to. You need to be happy, and obviously she doesnt care about your happiness. Thats wring. She should listen to you. It takes two to make a relationship work. good luck. Luis BAD WORD
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-8 #1 RE: At A Crossroad — kobra000 2010-10-23 11:42
if shes not paying attention to you or is being cold,uncaring,u nfeeling then perhaps she deserves being cheated on.
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